Online Couples Therapy in Seattle
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Who Is Couples Counseling For?
I provide Seattle couples therapy for people in all types of relationships—dating, married, engaged, separated, or somewhere in between. I work with all couples, including LGBTQIA+ and non-traditional partnerships such as polyamorous relationships, creating a space where you can feel safe, understood, and supported.
If your relationship feels strained or you're facing challenges that seem difficult to navigate on your own, couples therapy in Seattle can help. You don't need to be at a breaking point to benefit from counseling. Many couples seek support simply to strengthen communication, improve understanding, and reconnect.
Emotional Disconnect - You may find yourselves repeating the same arguments, feeling emotionally distant, or struggling to communicate your needs. One partner may withdraw during conflict, leaving both of you feeling disconnected or unheard.
Broken Trust or Intimacy Issues - Trust may have been damaged, emotional or physical intimacy may feel lacking, or the connection you once shared may seem harder to access. Many couples seek counseling when they want support rebuilding trust and closeness.
Big Life Stressors or Transitions - Life changes such as separation, parenting, engagement, marriage preparation, career shifts, or other significant events can place stress on a relationship. Couples often benefit from guidance during these transitions.
Individual Struggles Impacting the Relationship - Anxiety, trauma, addiction, identity-related concerns, or other personal struggles can influence how partners communicate and support one another. Therapy can help address these challenges within the context of the relationship.
How Does Couples Therapy Help?
As a couples therapist, my goal is to help you and your partner feel heard, understood, and supported without judgment or blame. Through couples therapy Seattle residents can access online, we'll explore the underlying patterns contributing to conflict and disconnection while developing healthier ways to relate to one another.
You don't have to wait until your relationship reaches a crisis point. Whether you're feeling disconnected, stuck in recurring conflict, or uncertain about your future together, Seattle couples therapy can provide insight, support, and practical tools for growth.
What We Work On
Exploring each of your needs so you both feel seen and supported
Discovering your shared strengths and challenges as a couple
Identifying toxic patterns that are keeping you stuck or distant
Recognizing new perspectives that change how you relate to each other
Resolving ongoing conflict in ways that build trust, not more distance
Learning how to turn toward each other during stress or emotional disconnection
Building mutual respect and understanding that deepens your bond
Discussing sensitive topics, like finances or family planning, more effectively
What You Can Expect to Gain
Better Communication - We’ll break the cycle of misunderstandings and help you express yourselves in ways that create connection instead of conflict.
Conflict Resolution Skills - Rather than repeating the same fights, you’ll learn how to navigate disagreements in a healthier, more productive way.
Deeper Emotional Connection - Feel closer, more understood, and emotionally safe with each other again—rebuilding intimacy and trust.
A Stronger, More Secure Relationship - You’ll gain tools to build a relationship that feels stable, fulfilling, and resilient.
Therapeutic Approaches
Every relationship is unique, and the support you receive should reflect your specific needs. As a trauma-informed, LGBTQ+ affirming therapist, I use evidence-based approaches to support couples facing communication difficulties, trust issues, emotional disconnection, and relationship stress.
Through couples therapy in Seattle, we'll use the approaches that best align with your goals, communication style, and relationship dynamics.
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Rooted in attachment theory, this approach focuses on how your early bonding experiences shape the way you connect (or disconnect) in adult relationships.
In couples therapy, attachment work helps you understand your and your partner’s attachment styles (like avoidant, anxious, or secure), so you can respond to each other’s needs with more compassion and clarity. The goal is to build a stronger emotional bond and create a secure, lasting connection.
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CBT helps couples identify and change unhelpful thought patterns and behaviors that contribute to conflict and disconnection. In sessions, you’ll learn to challenge negative assumptions about your partner, manage emotional reactions more effectively, and practice healthier communication. It’s especially useful for addressing cycles of blame, anxiety, or defensiveness.
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CPT is typically used when one or both partners have experienced trauma (such as PTSD) that’s affecting the relationship. It helps individuals process traumatic events and reduce their emotional impact.
In a couples setting, this can improve empathy, reduce triggers during conflict, and foster healing where trauma has created emotional distance or misunderstanding.
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DBT focuses on emotional regulation, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness. For couples, it’s helpful when emotions escalate quickly or one or both partners struggle with intense emotional responses.
DBT teaches skills like staying calm in conflict, setting boundaries, and validating each other’s experiences, which can reduce volatility and improve connection.
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EFT is centered on understanding the emotional needs that drive conflict. It helps couples recognize and shift negative interaction cycles by creating safety and emotional closeness.
Through EFT, partners learn to express vulnerability, respond with empathy, and build a secure emotional bond. It’s especially powerful for rebuilding trust and deepening intimacy.
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IFS views each person as having different “parts” within them—like the part that wants to avoid conflict, the part that feels abandoned, or the part that lashes out when hurt.
In couples therapy, I use IFS to help each partner understand and communicate from their calm, core “Self” rather than from reactive parts. This leads to greater empathy, less blame, and deeper connection as both partners learn to recognize and soothe the wounded parts in themselves and each other.
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This approach focuses on creating a safe, nonjudgmental space where both partners feel heard and valued.
As the therapist, I act as a supportive guide rather than an authority, helping you explore your own feelings and experiences. This approach builds trust and encourages authentic communication, especially when couples feel emotionally shut down or unheard.
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Schema Therapy helps uncover deep-rooted beliefs (schemas) formed in childhood that may be affecting how you relate to your partner.
For example, one partner may fear abandonment while the other feels smothered by emotional closeness. In couples therapy, identifying these patterns can lead to greater compassion and fewer misunderstandings.
How It Works
Booking your first therapy appointment is simple — just follow these three easy steps.
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Schedule a Therapy Appointment
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Develop a Customized Therapy Plan
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Begin Your Journey to Wellness
Ready to start your healing journey? Take the first step towards a better relationship with compassionate, personalized care tailored to your unique needs.
Frequently Asked Questions
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The number of sessions depends on your goals and the challenges you're facing. Some couples experience meaningful progress within a few sessions, while others choose longer-term support. We'll tailor the process to your needs.
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Yes. While most sessions are conducted together, individual sessions may occasionally be helpful to support the overall therapeutic process.
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That's completely okay. If one partner isn't ready to participate, individual therapy can provide a space to process your experience, explore options, and gain clarity about next steps.
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Cost depends on your insurance coverage. For private-pay clients, rates are the same as individual therapy sessions. I’m happy to talk through payment options with you. Click here to learn more about insurance coverage and payment options.
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In many cases, yes. Coverage can vary depending on your provider and plan, so it’s best to check directly with your insurance company. Click here to view accepted insurance plans.
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Premarital counseling helps couples prepare for marriage by discussing topics such as communication, finances, values, conflict resolution, and future planning. It can provide a strong foundation before marriage.
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Outcomes vary for every relationship. Many couples report improvements in communication, emotional connection, and overall relationship satisfaction through the counseling process, regardless of the path they ultimately choose.